The Services

Holistic Healing for Families Impacted

by the Disease of Alcoholism or Addiction

Recover. Rebuild. Restore.

OUR PURPOSE

Our Coach has a B.S. in Education and an M.A. in Christian Leadership with an emphasis in Family Addiction Ministry.  She is national certified as a Recovery Coach and as a Family Recovery Coach.  Our purpose and passion is recovery and we believe in the holistic healing of every member of the family.  No one is left unaffected when there is addiction in the family. 

​Addiction, and its effects on the family and its individual members is traumatic. A family afflicted by the disease of addiction is in crisis and its ability to maintain homeostasis is impaired.  Counseling at The Refuge focuses on restoring a stable balance within the family.  Our goal is to empower you as an individual and as a family unit to live life to the fullest, whether the addict is still using or not.  We believe that this can and will happen when you learn to lean on a Power greater than yourself; however and whoever you define that Power to be. 

OUR GOAL

COACHING CATEGORIES

Coaching is done in a variety of ways and is available in person, virtually or by phone.  The number of sessions and the intensity of the sessions is driven by the client.  As your coach, I will make professional recommendations based on an initial assessment, but ultimately the choice is yours, you are the client and I will encourage you to determine what is best and right for you and your family.  Coaching is a client and results driven service; there is no exact time limit for problem solving or reaching goals in action plans. 

RECOVERY COACHING
AT THE REFUGE

Every member of the family needs hope, healing, recovery, and restoration. Relationships, trust, and the emotional, spiritual, and physical well- being of everyone in the family needs to be rebuilt following the trauma of addiction.  Personalized coaching is one of the best tools that the family can use to recover, rebuild, and restore. Coaching provides clients with long term or short term personal one on one care during any stage of the recovery process. 

Coaching sessions offer continuing support for:
 

  • Individuals wanting to maintain progress after detox, rehab, Intensive In Patient (IIP), Intensive Out Patient (IOP), or life after the Sober Home
     

  • Individuals with sobriety that want to explore ideas/situations that will help them to maintain and manage their recovery, bring their recovery to the next level, and/or find themselves repeating behaviours that do not serve them well and desire help in directly addressing those issues before they jeopardize their sobriety and well-being
     

  • Families and loved ones of an addict or alcoholic who struggle with the issues, trauma, fear, and various emotions that come with loving, parenting and/or being in relationship with an addict/alcoholic

 

Coaching can be done in person, via phone or through a secure web portal.

RECOVERY COACHING FOR
THE ADDICT AND ALCOHOLIC

For the addict/alcoholic:
 

  • Coaching is highly recommended for individuals who find it hard to stay sober on their own
     

  • Coaching is often used by those who work a program, use a sponsor and/or accountability partner but still desire an extra layer of safety and support.
     

  • Coaching is a great addition for those in recovery who find themselves in stressful situations or intense, painful, volatile, transitory, or uncertain seasons of life and are seeking additional help and safeguards to maintain their hard earn sobriety.
     

  • Coaching is especially helpful to those who are sober but now hate life.
     

  • Coaching is great for those who have find sobriety and now need or want to find out how to live life on life terms.

Coaching can be done in person, via phone or through a secure web portal

RECOVERY COACHING FOR
THE FAMILY MEMBERS

For the family members:

  • Coaching is important for those who find themselves addicted to the alcoholic/addict and cannot break free of the toxic entanglements/associations/interactions that permeate the relationship(s) with your addicted loved one(s).

 

  • Coaching is critical for family members who live with an active addict and/or alcoholic.

 

  • Coaching can help family members learn how to develop, enforce, and maintain boundaries.

 

  • Coaching teaches family members how to detach with love and without guilt or fear.

 

  • Coaching helps to refocus the family onto the family and its individual members and away from the constant chaos, drama, and crisis of the addict.

 

  • Coaching helps to restore family balance and unity.

 

  • Coaching offers the family the opportunity to explore family roles, rules, expectations and thus develop effective and healthy standards and guidelines moving forward.

 

  • Coaching is critical for family members to maintain or regain sanity, develop a clear and focused perspective on life with addiction, and learn the facts about the disease of alcoholism and addiction.

Coaching can be done in person, via phone or through a secure web portal.

PRIVATE CONSULTATIONS

To facilitate restoration, The Refuge works with each family member to learn their strengths and their individual needs for healing.

 

It is through these personalized one-on-one sessions that we are able to develop a course of action for the family or individual to recover, rebuild and be restored. 

 

The goal is to acquire information, strategize appropriate boundaries, create effective communication skills and develop and maintain healthy mental, physical, and emotional routines.

Coaching can be done in person, via phone or through a secure web portal.

RESTORATION WORKSHOPS

The Refuge offers customized workshops and facilitated discussions for families, schools, advisors, employers and others.  Our workshops are currently formatted for one day; however we are able to adjust them either up or down, structuring them to accommodate your business, church or parachurch needs, be it either a half day seminar or a two-day retreat.

 

The Refuge workshops expose families and individuals to hope and healing through:

  • Learning how to stop enabling your addict
     

  • How to detach and avoid or overcome codependent behaviors
     

  • New and effective communication tools
     

  • Effective techniques for re-building or establishing trust
     

  • Authentic and honest ways to express and processing feelings
     

  • Techniques that cultivate healthy family dynamics
     

  • Learning about healthy expression of emotion and healthy boundaries
     

  • Understanding the ways that family dynamics affect current relationships
     

  • The use of the Twelve Steps and the disciplines and principles that they teach which enable and equip the family with the tools necessary to achieve a healthier, happier life through lasting emotional sobriety.

Contact us today at 281-923-6313 if you or someone you know would like to schedule a workshop presentation or if you would like to sign up for an upcoming workshop.

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

PASTORAL COUNSELING

When surveyed about counseling, 66% of the people said they preferred a mental health counselor who represented spiritual values and beliefs; 81% said they would like their own values and beliefs to be integrated into the counseling process. Perhaps because pastoral counseling is particularly responsive to these needs and desires, it has become a major provider of mental health services.

ADDICTION AND ITS EFFECTS ON THE FAMILY - How Pastoral Counseling Helps

Addiction and its effects on the family, and its individual members, is traumatic. Pastoral counseling at The Refuge focuses on restoring a stable balance within the family. A family afflicted by the disease of addiction is in crisis and its ability to maintain homeostasis, balance and order, is impaired. As families struggle against the disease of addiction, members within the family unit assume roles that have been vacated by the addict. The rearranging and manipulating of roles, responsibilities, and expectations generates additional problems and concerns that can and often do outlast the addiction. Sobriety, in and of itself, cannot, and will not, reorder balance to a family. In fact, the struggle to regain homeostasis and proper roles, once sobriety is achieved, often trigger a relapse for the addict/alcoholic. Thus, leading to a vicious cycle the family finds difficult to escape. 

 

LEANING ON A HIGHER  POWER
Family dynamics and how they are impacted, impaired, and distorted are one of the key issues that I address in my pastoral counseling at The Refuge. My goal is to empower you as an individual, and as a family unit, to live life to the fullest, whether the addict is still using or not. I believe that this can and will happen when you learn to lean on a Power greater than yourself; however, and whoever you define that to be. My experience has shown me that it is only through knowing and being known that one can develop an honest and authentic posture of enduring trust, surrender, and willingness; willingness to surrender your life and the lives of those you love to the God that you know, trust and love and who you know trusts, loves, and knows you in return.

 

NIDOTHERAPY
Pastoral counseling is traditionally a blend of psychology and theology; it is often described as a “theology of relationships.” I love that description, as I strongly believe in the power of community and know first-hand its healing properties. In fact, I believe so strongly in the therapeutic powers of community that I include practices and principles of Nidotherapy in my pastoral counseling. Nido is after nidus (Latin: nest).

 

The main aim in Nidotherapy is to establish a good personal fit between an individual and their environment. This cannot be done in isolation, it requires community and must take in account the personal microenvironmental needs of a patient and how they engage with the larger macroenvironment of society. These principles include collateral collocation, formulation of realistic environmental targets, and personal adaptation and control. Throughout Nidotherapy the patient takes the prime responsibility for the program. 


Nidotherapy is an effective form of treatment for those who suffer from chronic stress, whose lifestyle is often the cause of their difficulties, and whose life is unmanageable due to relational environmental factors that are beyond their control. It is a systematic approach used to tackle environmental needs and disruptions by adjusting the patient’s perceptions and reactions rather than by changing external environmental surroundings. It is self-focused therapy meant to improve a patient’s ability to stay focused on their own environments; making spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical environmental changes as needed for themselves, while minimizing the need for control in environments other than their own. 

 

YOU ARE NOT ALONE
It is important for you to know you are not alone, and will never be alone, in your fight against the monstrous disease of addiction. I invite you to call today, 281- 923-6313, to schedule an appointment, and begin your journey to recover, rebuild, and be restored. 

 

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